Aya de Leon

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Romance Novels, Racism & Restorative Justice: Part 1

My daughter is five and in preschool. When young children hurt or offend each other, some adults instruct them to apologize. I found this happening at one of my daughter’s previous school, and that was one of the reasons I moved her to a new school. Children who are pressured by adults to apologize don’t actually get to repair the relationship. At her new school, the adults engage in a deeper process of conflict mediation and include the kids in strategies for repair and moving forward. As usual, adults can often learn from best practices with small children.

This week, white romance author Stephanie Dray had to apologize when her racism was publicly exposed. She was joking on facebook about a BDSM romance between founding father Thomas Jefferson and the enslaved Sally Hemings. In particular, another white romance author Jenny Trout, called her out and circulated the screencap of Dray’s facebook page. The screen shot had been shared with Trout by one or more women of color authors who were upset. Trout asked permission to share it, and kept the authors anonymous.

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Screen shot of Stephanie Dray’s facebook page

Dray used her words. She apologized on her blog and individually to everyone who tweeted her that they were upset.

And this is where we have the same split as in my daughter’s two schools. Some are saying: “hey, she apologized. What more do you want?” Others are dissatisfied with the apology for several reasons. First, the apology itself contained additional racist language. Second, scrutiny of Dray’s work finds further instances of racism. Finally—and this is much bigger than Dray—the whole incident opens up the larger issue of racism in the romance genre and publishing in general.

I would argue that Dray is like the kids at my daughter’s previous school. They don’t have the tools to actually repair a situation. They can only offer an apology. Dray doesn’t seem to want to be racist, but she’s so steeped in it, and so unconscious of it that her attempts at cleaning up only make it worse. What is needed here is restorative or transformative justice.

First of all, let’s look at what happened.

Here is the facebook page where Dray posts that a BDSM romance between Jefferson/Hemings would be “hilarious.” Rape is not funny. The systematic rape of African women in the US with no human rights, AKA “slaves,” is particularly not funny.

Dray apologized for joking and insists she is not writing such a BDSM romance, but rather a historical novel about Jefferson’s daughter.

In Dray’s apology, and it seems as if she tried really hard to be humble and thorough. She avoids classic passive aggressive apology wording, such as, I’m sorry you that upset you or I’m sorry you felt that way. She uses clear and unequivocal language: “I hurt people…I’m bitterly disappointed in myself….I would like to extend my heartfelt apology. And I thank those of you who made me take a hard look at this…I was wrong….It will not happen again.” Her co-writer Kaye uses the same tone in her apology, adding: “I am a rape survivor, so I am disappointed in myself for doing something that trivializes or makes light of rape…”

On the surface, they seem deeply remorseful, but others take issue. @fangirlJeanne, a a media critic, blogger, and writer wrote a scathing post on “Love in the Margins,” a blog that focuses on diversity in romance and erotica. fangirlJeanne says, “While many authors, white and people of color alike, have accepted the apologies, to others it seems Dray and Kaye only care about getting back in other white women’s good graces, and selling their book.”

Sure enough, when I took a second look, I realized I had missed the shameless self-promotion in Laura Kaye’s apology. She includes what sounds like jacket copy to arouse curiosity about the novel. In her “clarification” description of the book they wrote: the novel “offers a sweeping treatment of Martha “Patsy” Jefferson Randolph’s life from dutiful daughter traveling at her diplomat father’s side to First Lady during her father’s presidency to mistress of the iconic Monticello.” Note to authors: when apologizing for being insensitive, please do not include the pitch for your book. Also note, “the iconic Monticello” refers to Jefferson’s plantation which his daughter ostensibly inherits. Here is a photo of the child size shackles Jefferson kept:

Dray also makes a crucial mistake in her own apology. She says, “Racial justice is something that I feel deeply about. Something that I think deeply about….But apparently not deeply enough,” and her unconscious/unaware racism is evident from first paragraph of the apology itself.

Dray says that “Thomas Jefferson initiated sex with his slave, Sally Hemings, most probably when she was fifteen.” Many on twitter took her to task for the euphemism of “initiated sex” as opposed to rape, which is the legal definition of such a sex act with an underage girl. This is not to mention that she was his legal property, so it’s not as if he could “initiate sex” and she could refuse.

A closer investigation of Dray reveals a persistent, exploitative relationship with all things African in her Cleopatra’s Daughters series, including the blonde white “Princess of Egypt” cover.

Having literally just had a conversation about book covers with my own commercial publisher, no one knows better than me that an author doesn’t always have control of her cover images. But apparently, the novel with the blonde on the cover is self-published, which means Dray was in full control of that racist decision. In fact, all of the “Egyptians” on her covers are white-looking.

I haven’t read the books, so I don’t know what racism or anti-racism lurks within. But she’s clearly participating in the time-honored racist tradition of whitening and appropriating the glories of Egypt and disconnecting them from Africa.

Dray says that “It has been my ambition…with this project, to shed light on the devastation of slavery…And to make clear that the scars of that devastation are still evident today in our politics and our culture.” But she doesn’t see that the white entitlement of racism is still evident today in her own relationship to writing about African/African American themes. Her fascination with Africa (Egypt), with African Americans, slavery, and the sexual violence of slavery are all about taking these subjects and exploiting them for her own financial gain. Do white people have the right to write about race and racism? Of course. But if they do it in a racist way, many of us are going to call it out. Is that censorship? No. It’s principled criticism. We are calling out the hypocrisy in Dray’s work, and the disconnect between what she states as her intentions and the results/impacts.

Finally, both she and her co-writer Kaye insist that there is no BDSM Thomas Jefferson/Sally Hemings book. And this is suspect, because Dray speaks in her post of the “50 Shades of Grey/Jefferson Mashup we’ve got in mind. Oh yes…imagine the possibilities…” As author Tasha L. Harrison and others have noted on twitter, Dray lays out clear plans for a book. Harrison tweeted a strong accusation to Dray that she and her “coauthor talked to your editor about it.” Harrison goes on to quote Dray’s facebook page directly, “‘Which means it’s happening, people.’” Given this information, it seems to many as if Dray apologizes for the joke (in which she was caught red-handed) and denies the book they had pitched and in which their editor was interested (which she can easily conceal).

Whether or not every detail of the allegation is true or not, it points to the troubling idea that this is bigger than one or two women’s racism. The idea that she, her co-writer, and their editor had all greenlighted such a book, and that several other authors and/or fans on facebook were excited about it, is part of what really upsets women of color writers and our allies in fighting racism. That not one of the various white people would say THIS IS A HORRIBLE, RACIST, AND OFFENSIVE IDEA points to a bigger problem. Woman of color romance author Suleikha Snyder notes how the racism of the situation has been “swept under the rug until the next time it happens…And make no mistake, it WILL happen again. Because the default narrative and status quo have not changed.”

Next up in this series (in no particular order):

  1. the larger systematic issues of racism in romance genre and publishing in general.
  2. what does it mean to write about a marginalized community you’re not part of
  3. ideas for restorative/transformative justice solutions.

Meanwhile, Stephanie Dray has put herself on a twitter and blog time out. Whether she’s using the time to really reflect on her actions, or just brooding in the corner while the other kids are playing, we have no way of knowing. Kaye, however, started back up to her usual social media life the very next day.

If you would like to submit your thoughts to possibly be quoted in future posts on this topic, get at me on twitter @ayadeleon

11 comments on “Romance Novels, Racism & Restorative Justice: Part 1

  1. Jenny Trout
    March 9, 2015

    Hey there! I just want to clarify (because I think I worded it vaguely in my DM to you on twitter) that I asked permission to anonymously share the picture, and the women who’d shown me the screencap agreed, on the condition that I remove the name of the author. I just don’t want it to sound like someone came to me expressly to say, “Here, can you call this out, I’m too afraid to.” It was more, “Here, look at this bullshit,” and me saying, “I want to call her out on this, can I use that screenshot,” and them saying, “Sure, call her out!” 😀

  2. meoskop
    March 10, 2015

    It’s a seemingly minor point (yet not) is that Dray did NOT tweet everyone who sent her @ messages. Despite saying that was her intention, she responded exclusively to white responders, then to Alisha Rai, a non-black author of color. I haven’t checked to see if Dray played catch-up but at the time of her apology post she hadn’t. She did link her apology to several tweeters subsequent to posting it. Acknowledgement of how she curated who she was engaging may have added depth to her post.

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  4. mamaboo7907
    March 15, 2015

    I would like to clarify something, please. The “Priestess of the Nile” is not by Ms. Dray, it is by Veronica Scott. They are not the same person. Thank you.

  5. Aya de Leon
    March 17, 2015

    thanks to all for helpful comments. I will address in editing this post or future posts in the series!

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  7. D
    March 28, 2015

    Hello! I’ve read Dray’s Princess Selene books and WOW. I didn’t sense racism (Princess Selene was Cleopatra’s daughter, Cleopatra was a Macedonian Greek – though with some Persian – overlord of Egypt whose family used and abused Egyptian people and even enslaved black people from Sub-Sahara) but the sexual violence? Disgusting. She has Selene be raped by Emperor Augustus (who defeated Selene’s father, Antony), her husband Juba was complicit in the rape (apparently forgivable, as they “fall in love” in the book 3), she became pregnant with Augustus’s own baby (or possibly her brother. There was an incestuous relationship), then Selene decided to seduce and father another baby for Augustus–her rapist–and it is so just oversexualized it is sick a bad rape-style “erotica type novel”. The book Cleopatra’s Daughter by Michelle Moran (famous for her accuracy to Ancient Egypt in her fiction) is much better alternative to Dray’s books. So shocking man!

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  9. Queen Esther
    June 3, 2018

    Additional evidence that all these white females think about is the bondage & torture they “missed out on”, they are begging for it on the daily. Oh, just wait, white chics, your day is on the horizon, can’t you handmaids see it coming? Don’t look to black women [“slaves”] for help & to be “allies” with you. That ship has sailed, literally AND figuratively. Thank you, though for continuing to show us who you are, when you think black folk aren’t within earshot.

    Thank you, Ava, for writing this, I just recently discovered your blog. Take care & God bless.

  10. Queen Esther
    June 3, 2018

    And could there have been ANY more ego-stroking in that facebook screenshot? You’d think they were white boys, because their themes & their convos sound JUST like ’em.

  11. olya
    February 23, 2019

    Not to be like….bringing up old shit. But the Princess of Egypt Must Die is about the Greek princess Arsinoe, whose brother was a notorious blonde – they were the Ptolemies. Like Cleopatra’s Daughter, half Greek and half Italian.

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